Yeah, so you’re a really good christian. You go to church, sometimes more than once a week. You can name off all the books of the Bible, and are pretty knowledgeable about the verses in them. You witnessed to a lot of your friends, and you even wear t-shirts with Bible verses on them so that all of your friends know just how sold out you really are. Well, maybe those weird t-shirts aren’t your thing, but you totally put your hands in the air while the worship band plays at church. And that’s not all…
You have gifts of the spirit, and pray for your friends on a regular basis. Everyone who knows you knows you’re a Christian, because your morality is incredible. You don’t mess up anywhere near as much as everyone else in the “world.” You’ll readily admit that you aren’t perfect, of course…it’s just that your faith and pursuit of holiness helps you strive to honor God with your thoughts and activities.
Maybe you’re all of those things, plus, you’re generous. Maybe you’re none of these things, but at least you’re generous! Maybe you gave away some of your possessions to a family in need, or donated to a charity, or bought some food for a homeless guy. Maybe you even sponsor a kid or orphan living in poverty in another country.
Awesome.
But did you love? Like, really love? If not, all that other stuff was, and is, worthless. Without love, you’ve done absolutely nothing. And honestly, you’re actually more like an annoying, clanging cymbal.
Just so you know, I’m not trying to be a jerk. I didn’t decide all of this. I guess sometimes we have to use tough love. Check this out:
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have no love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames as a martyr, but have no love, I gain nothing. 1st Corinthians 13:1-3
What have you done to selflessly and unconditionally love someone in a way that made them feel valued?
Go do that.
Yeah, I should, too.
P.S. If you’re wondering what real love actually is, read this.